We went to a party last night. A little background on this. The party was a 40th birthday party for one of Michael's old friends. We've not heard from these people in at LEAST 3 years... probably longer. The guy that turned 40 and his younger brother were really good friends of Michael's and his brother when they were growing up. And, even into adult years until who knows what happened. The lady that is married to the younger brother and I were pretty close for a while, too. At least I had thought so. She is the one that threw me my baby shower when I was pregnant with Michaela.
Then, a few years ago we were having a party and I called to see if they were coming and she would not come to the phone. I could hear her in the back ground telling her husband to tell me that her mom would be in town that day. He had said, "I thought she was coming this weekend instead." Then, she says, just tell her my mom will be here. So, after that I stopped calling and she didn't call. About a year later Michael stopped getting calls, too. He used to hunt with both brothers and their dad all the time. They stopped asking him to come a long and were always busy when he called. He also used to play softball with them all.
Then, out of the blue we get this invitation. Neither one of us knew what to think. But, we decided to go. We had my mom keep the kids since we really were confused by it all. They spent the night with my mom, too.
It turned out ok. I never did feel comfortable there last night, but it wasn't horrible. Of course it didn't help that I'd hurt my back while changing sheets yesterday and was hurting all evening. But, the lady that I'd been friends with did take some time to talk to me one on one. But, it was kind of a weird conversation. There are some things she said that I don't think she realized were ... I don't know just kind of dumb to say given what had happened. I seriously think she was just trying to be friendly. And, we found out that another guy had kind of just replaced Michael in the hunting stuff. I think in a way Michael was relieved to know what was going on, but on the other hand it hurt. I seriously don't think they all realize how hurtful they've been. I don't know. I need to stop thinking about it.
We stayed longer than I'd planned, but most of the conversation was decent. They were disappointed we didn't have the kids with us. But, most of them have never even seen Caleb so that seems strange. The weirdest part is we used to be at all their parties like this and so we knew all the other people in their lives. All the kids have grown so much I had to wait and watched who called who mommy to know which kid they were. A couple of them looked just like mom for me to know, but not all of them. And, now there are "new" friends that we'd never met before. The friends from their church were a little stand offish. Not all of them and not too bad. I'm sure if I'd made more of an effort it would have been better, but I was just not comfortable enough to be as friendly as I usually am.
I'm glad we went. But, I'm glad it's over, too.
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